The other day, I was asking for feedback from a team I was working with about the value of the program. One of the members came up to me afterwards and said, “please don’t take this personally” and gave me some additional feedback. My response was,” the elephant is in the room whether we talk about him or not. For me, I would prefer to know what you are thinking and feeling so that I can modify the program to give you results that meet your needs.”
Yes, the elephant is in the room whether we talk about him or not. There he is, clomping around, banging into things.
And yet, we often refuse to talk about him. Why is that? Here are the reasons I hear:
- I don’t want confrontation
- I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings
- We can’t do anything about it anyway